In general (if I don't forget) on DW I give plain access to all people who subscribe to me and give me access (which I take as request to read locked posts in return) even without being familiar with the person. I mostly use the plain access lock for RL posts and the occasional fannish frustration post/rant that doesn't need to be public, but I wouldn't mind much if it became so.
If you'd like access but I haven't given you access when you subscribed to me, you can check this poll. BTW mutual access-giving is not necessary. Also, if I you have access but would rather just see the public posts, click that option:
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 8
Should I give (or remove) access from you?
In addition to the plain access-lock which equates to plain f-lock on LJ, I also have an access filter "personal posts" which I originally created for LJ, because there access and subscription aren't separate and I had friended people for reading with whom I had never even talked.
Often I use that filter for not very happy personal posts, and it is not really a reader-oriented/lurker-friendly filter, if that makes sense, i.e. more often than not I tend to be in need of internet hugs when I post to that filter. The post frequency varies widely from not used at all for months to somewhat frequent posts. Recently I haven't posted to it often. If you can see this older post about grief
for example, you are on that filter. If you request access in the poll below, but I can't place your DW name, I might message you to ask how we know each other, before adding you.
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 6
Should I add (or remove) you from my "personal posts" access filter?
Obviously if you're content with the state of your (non-)access to my journal no responses are necessary.