If you'd like access but I haven't given you access when you subscribed to me, you can check this poll. BTW mutual access-giving is not necessary. Also, if I you have access but would rather just see the public posts, click that option:
Should I give (or remove) access from you?
Please give me access.
Please remove my access.
In addition to the plain access-lock which equates to plain f-lock on LJ, I also have an access filter "personal posts" which I originally created for LJ, because there access and subscription aren't separate and I had friended people for reading with whom I had never even talked.
Often I use that filter for not very happy personal posts, and it is not really a reader-oriented/lurker-friendly filter, if that makes sense, i.e. more often than not I tend to be in need of internet hugs when I post to that filter. The post frequency varies widely from not used at all for months to somewhat frequent posts. Recently I haven't posted to it often. If you can see this older post about grief for example, you are on that filter. If you request access in the poll below, but I can't place your DW name, I might message you to ask how we know each other, before adding you.
Should I add (or remove) you from my "personal posts" access filter?
Please add me to that filter.
Please remove me from that filter.
Obviously if you're content with the state of your (non-)access to my journal no responses are necessary.